Absolutely! I made a list of the qualities I wanted in a mate. It sounded remarkably like yours. I didn’t say anything about his income or his appearance except nice eyes.

I belonged to a federal government educational program called Upward Bound in my teens, and one of the counselors was concerned with how unhealthy girls like me were in relationships with boys, so she gave me a five-page, legal paper list of questions to ask myself to determine if it was really love I was feeling as a 15-year-old.

I had none of this kind of guidance from home, so her list of questions did end up underpinning my list of desired traits when I was older.

The only thing they could never fully instill in us girls was a sense of self worth that would lead us to turn away the ones who shouldn’t have made the cut.

Chances are I have a migraine. My spirit guides are Voltaire & Bierce. Considering making SJW into a religion. Genealogist

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