I read your essay about gastric bypass, so please don’t panic when I say that I am a fat person who has had a bypass who is a fan. I continue to believe strongly in body positivity and body shapes of all sizes. When all is said and done, I will probably still weigh around 175. I know that is not part of the over 200 misery anymore, but I think I still fall into “I love my wife’s curves territory” where my husband has to confess to being a chubby chaser to love me or something,
My lifetime of pointless diets, my eating disorder, and my frequent years at the gym, albeit alternating with hopeless years on the couch, all that is seared in my brain for life. I would never have been like your friend with the bypass who disappeared into thin land. I’ll be with the fat ladies for life.
Anyhow, I come to you as an ambassador with a very specific message from the other side of gastric bypass (it is not to get one). It is this. This surgery changes your biochemistry. I don’t know how. My surgeon said he doesn’t know. But it makes you have a skinny person’s biochemistry. Food tastes sweeter. I crave less. Carbs are less enticing. This surgery is not just about friggin’ portion size, although yes, you eat much less. But there is something different in fat versus skinny bodies.
Maybe as they have found we have more of one bacteria in our gut than another compared to skinny people and those bacteria can draw more energy from food in fat people. Then they cut them all out. I don’t know what they do, but it is biochemically different.
I am a skinny person now to the degree my body will let me. I blend in. I can wear an XL, and that’s enough to buy you something I always wanted. Access to their damn clothes. But I can’t go back from being fat mentally. I’ve been here once before for five whole years and I lost it. It is not my natural body. Hormones fight hard to draw me in a different direction. And I believe that is in my very DNA.