It must be hard to be the only one in the family who wants to confront these issues. My husband is fortunate because his parents believed in white privilege and the wrongness of white supremacy. Their own grandparents, well, at least in his mother’s case, was a lyncher. She hated her grandfather.
Therefore, my husband has two brothers who think like he does maybe minus a little militancy my husband has about everything.
My family is pretty good, too. Not my extended family. They’re evil. But my brothers and sister and mom. My father is passed.
Now, one white relative wrote my husband and said, “Why do you have Henry Stokes with a picture of a lynching as his profile picture and these other grandparents with slave chains?
He promptly wrote whoever it was back and said, “Because they never paid during their lives for the greatest sin they ever committed. They are being called to account for it now.” The woman never wrote back.
Now, weird coincidence, because I published this piece quite a while ago, and I got comments on the same day, but it looks like one of my husband’s black cousins has written to ask him a question about his public family tree. So perhaps he can build from here?