Today, as Iowa passes a law that would force me to have a child, my memory drifts back to when my social media tribe was picked for me. It was when the police met me at our driveway in 1981 to escort us to the State assessments for child abuse. The State of Iowa did find we were being abused, but they did not find themselves culpable. They did not say, “We removed AFDC-UP as a program of support that would have prevented these children from starving and freezing.” Nope, they just blamed my parents and took custody. Yeah, my tribe. They have faced a civil bunch. They use the law. The law is civil.