Well, I am a huge girl, too, and I completely get why she wrote this. Why it is beyond you is beyond me. Apparently, it is harder for some people to get this than others. Empathy isn’t everyone’s strong suit.
She isn’t putting any limitations on anyone. She is asking people to be less stigmatizing about fat. This is actually no different than asking people not to talk constantly about how short they are in front of a dwarf. Saying things about being fat in front of a fat person lacks all social grace. It’s rude. It’s thoughtless. And it’s cruel. People are idiots, but they do it, anyway, because somehow it is okay to say, “I’m so fat,” in front of a fat person when you are 135 pounds. Fat is the great exception to being polite. No one thinks they have to be.
Maybe being scorned by society for being a she-beast is your thang. Personally, I’m not happy about being fat, and I hate that my eating disorder doesn’t allow me to lose weight, since I can’t seem to get past it. Meanwhile, like a lot of women with an eating disorder, it originally started because of the stupid things society says about women’s bodies. If I hadn’t starved myself for years listening to everyone talking about how skinny women should be, I wouldn’t have ended up binging for decades more. So, I wouldn’t mind if all women just shut the hell up about fat. It would have saved me the eating disorder. It would have saved millions of other miserable women the same. Maybe it’s time to get off each other’s backs, huh? If your friends can’t get with that, maybe you need to ask what the hell is wrong with them.