Hello, glad you dropped by. I may write a lot. Maybe too much, but this is NOT a 7 minute read unless you really love lingering over links. I am supposed to be working on my memoir, a lifelong dream since I went to foster care in 5th grade. So, I have compiled the pieces of my memoir, “When We Were At Your Mercy” here. In addition, I have sprinkled in the tangents I can’t seem to stop finding on my way to writing my stories.
When We Were At Your Mercy
A few years ago, I found a file on our family’s computer labeled “Preface.” While I was sure I had toyed around with…
“My Father’s Theory of Everything” Book Excerpt: When We Were At Your Mercy
My father organized his life around his efforts to create a mathematical equation describing his theory of everything…
“Mama, Were You a Hippie?”
“Mama, were you a hippie?” I glanced up from folding bath towels.
“The Night My Mom Was Going To Burn Down the House” Book Excerpt: When We Were At Your Mercy
David, pulled at my arm in panic.
“The Time I Was Found Guilty of Child Neglect When I Was a Child” Book Excerpt: When We Were At…
Ask yourself: How would this be handled in a middle class or upper class neighborhood?
“It’s Not Even Safe To Go To Church” Book Excerpt: When We Were At Your Mercy
David and Daniel ran inside and yelled, “There’s a big blue bus outside, and it’s taking people to church. They said…
“Sometimes You Just Have To Take The Beating” Book Excerpt: When We Were At Your Mercy
I was never a fighter, but I lived in a neighborhood where being a fighter was a necessity. I was suspended three times…
Sometimes An Eating Disorder Is About Making Friends
These illustrations are the second in the series. The first “The Bullies Get Into Your Head” can be found here.
When Your Real Mother is Broken, How Much Luck Do You Need To Get a Second Chance?
I had seen her walking through the hallways of our high school pulling a wheeled briefcase behind her. She looked like…
Restaurant Staff Were Key To College For Me
The staff of a steakhouse bought me all of my freshman year supplies for college and helped me raise the last $700 I…
You've Paid Enough Penance - Crossing Genres
Dear Mama, Don't think it has gone unnoticed how much you've changed in the past two decades. Your recovery unfolded…
Far Too Many People Are Fat Because They Don’t Eat
I’m up early, 5:30 on a Saturday, and I know I will not eat until at least noon. This is a much deserved punishment…
Inequality Costs Some Americans A Lot of Money - Crossing Genres
These conversations back and forth between Paul Graham and his accurate, eloquent detractors (e.g., Holly Wood) sharpen…
There’s Somebody Wrong on the Internet
For the past week, I have been manic. No surprise there.
Before You Could Write, You Could Read
You really needed a distraction. A mean school. A mean family. A mean mind. Scanning across the page, barely giving one…
I Care About You - Crossing Genres
Lately, all I run into are articles written by devotees, and people influenced by devotees, of Ayn Rand. She believed…
Luck Be Damned, The Only Cure is Gratitude - Crossing Genres
People have been trying to convince me there is no such thing as luck since I was a child. My husband currently tries…
Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome Seems Hopelessly Intertwined With My Eating Disorder
If you listen to me tell the story of my eating disorder, and then some time later hear me tell the story of having a…
What am I Doing on Medium?
I have tried to ignore my passion for writing. My mother called herself a writer, and her income from this work was so…
Is It Better to Create This New Psychiatric Diagnosis or Not?
Complex-Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or Developmental Trauma Disorder is not officially a diagnosis according to the…
A Libertarian Fallacy: Returning to Private Charity Is Freedom
Libertarians say they prefer to help vulnerable groups, such as the poor and disabled, through private means such as…
The 10th Worst City for African Americans in the U.S. has a Story — This is How the Dream Derailed
Recently, an article in 24/7 Wall Street and Huffington Post, identified the Waterloo-Cedar Falls, Iowa metropolitan…
The Grouchy Person’s Guide To Advice: Don’t Worry, Eventually There’s a List
Medium is chock full of encouraging people. Well, not exactly encouraging. More like “I did it, so you can, too” people…
The Epidemic of White Denial of Racism
I can’t scroll through my feed or read the comments of an article about racism without running into a white person…
The Poverty Experts: the book
After finishing my first book, I realized I was already ready for my second.
The Lie That Women Aren’t Pressured To Have Children
For some reason, Medium has become a place where men’s rights activists like to hang out and comment, comment, comment…
The “Few Bad Apples” Theory of Police Reform is Deadly Wrong
So, what if black people are actually dying at the hands of good apples more often than people want to believe? What if…
White Power, Political Correctness, and “Free Speech”
A “radical leftist,” Bailey Lamon, has drawn pixel applause from Left and Right in declaring that the Left have become…
Racist Rant Makes a Point
After killing way too much of my time today trying to explain institutional racism in response to an unabashedly racist…
People Who Ignore Fear in Politics Brought Us Reagan and The Beginning of the Conservative Era
Human beings are where they are today because they have heeded their fear signals. The guys who said, “I don’t mind…
And finally, just a few responses I am proud of:
Being a Woman Before Third Wave Feminism
Young women have many advantages growing up in the 21st century. One of them is that they have the freedom to sit…
A Different Perspective on “Why You Shouldn’t Help People”
During graduate school, I taught college students personality psychology at the University of Michigan. The way classes…
Rape Silence Comes From Confusion and Feelings of Culpability, I Think
I could relate to your story completely. I am a non-reporter. I never even told my mother, and I was a teenager living…
Honoring Fathers Who Were Dealt A Bad Hand
Coincidentally, I recently published a piece on Medium about my deceased father who is also a Vietnam-era veteran…
Why Yes, Hell is Spelled P.C.O.S.
Men will probably find this a bit much to read. Anyway, it’s been quite some time since you wrote about having…
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